Gay guide sex
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will regard bottoming at some moment. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse participate like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can become douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do apply amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased peril of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs enjoy Viagra and may result in a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, w
The “how to” of sex positions is imperative for any relationship. Mastering alternative gay sex positions not only heightens the experience but also provides a deeper connection with your partner both literally and figuratively. But before we start, if you’ve ever wondered, “What’s a top or bottom?” Don’t stress. These terms might be common within the LGBTQ+ collective, but not everyday vernacular for everyone else, which is why we’ve position together an ever-growing list of Gay terminology.
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- Affect the top and the bottom in different ways
- Bring out both submissive or aggressive characteristics of each person
- Require an understanding of both everyone’s positioning (height, penis curvature, and pelvic angle)
Little nuances and adjustments can make all the difference in terms of pleasure vs. pain, as does open and straightforward communication. It’s key
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LGBTQIA+ Safer Sex Guide
Zero.
Disgracefully, that’s the number of U.S. states that require sex education curriculums be comprehensively inclusive to LGBTQIA+ folks.
Most sex education programs, instead, assume that those receiving the information are both heterosexual and cisgender. If there’s anything less cute than clogs, it’s that degree of homophobia and transphobia.
That’s why we worked with GLSEN, Advocates for Youth, and two queer sex educators to create a safer sex guide that understands the genuine complexity and diversity across gender identities, sexual orientation, attractions, and experiences.
Only 5 (ish) percent of LGBTQIA+ students saw any LGBTQIA+ representation in health class.
This guide is for the 95 percent of students whose many sexual health questions went unanswered in school.
It’s also for any LGBTQIA+ person who’s ever wondered:
- “What conversations should I have with a partner before sex?”
- “Is there a chance of pregnancy or STI transmission during [insert sex act here]?”
- “What can I do to make sex even better?”
- “How do I become comfortable with my own body?”
Or anything else related to sexual health, sexual plea